Why Me?

It is so difficult at times to access and then accept the answer to the question, "why is this happening to me....again?". Life so often seems to gift our teachings in packages that may not feel very good. It is so easy to get frustrated when "we" don’t "know" the outcome or "we want" the outcome to be different or our life just isn't going in the direction "we" think it should. But maybe that is precisely what this life journey is all about; finding a way to find peace in the presence of uncertainty. (I talk about this in more depth in an earlier blog post here if you are interested)

So often, life seems to make little sense... yet perspective changes everything. Ever look back at seemingly random events and notice how they were not random at all? Or maybe you experienced a crisis that required you take action, which in hindsight, gave you an indescribable gift. When you look back can you fit together events that required you to learn lessons necessary for the next phase of your life? It is true that the view of the path from the summit looks very different than the view of the path from the valley. And although we crave that summit perspective, we may have yet to climb the actual mountain. The climbing part is critically important to actually reaching the top.

With this in mind, I came across this passage the other day while reading Robert Ohotto's book Transforming Fate into Destiny . In my opinion, it gives a rather refreshing perspective on the "whys" of life. It  reminds us to remember that life is a journey and not a destination, that where we are is exactly where we need to be, that patterns are present to get us to pay attention to required lessons,  and real change happens when we are open and accountable for our part in the process.

Enjoy it! I sure did

PS
And as always feel free to contact me if you are in one of those "why is this happening again to me moments", have questions, or perhaps seem to be stuck in a valley. Very often a new perspective is all that is required. My updated website www.alekasky.com. Email is alekasky.com,

Feel free to send this to anyone that might be interested.


Dear God,
It's Mike here. I usually don't ask for much, but I'd really like my new Internet business selling children's toys to take off so I can quite my job. I hate my current boss. He's always criticizing me and never appreciates the hard work I do- he totally reminds me of my father!


The new book I'm reading says prayer and visualization are powerful, so I'm going to visualize making a million dollars by next year through this new Internet gig- could you give me a hand with that? It would be great if you could help me manifest that. Then I could quit my job, get some cool clothes, buy a house, lease a new BMW, and have money to travel to the Bahamas next fall. I could finally ask my girl friend Jane to marry me.


On that note, it would also be great if you could help Jane. I do love her but, sometimes she's so stubborn. I wish she'd change that about herself and quite fighting with me about having kid. I know she says that she doesn't want children, but I really want to start a family. If you help me make that million, then she won't have to work and might be persuaded to stay home and raise kids.


Oh, and if you grant me these things, I promise I'll give 10% of my income to charity and be sure to give some money to each homeless person I see.


Please let me know your answer by Friday - by giving me a unmistakable sign.


Thanks God,
Mike

God's answer

My Dear Mike,

In short, the answer to all of your requests is no. So when nothing remarkable happens this Friday take note that I have turned you down. Although you cannot remember it right now, before you came to Earth you made certain agreements that must be upheld, and answering your requests would violate many of those agreements.

Let me give you a glimpse of things from my perspective. First of all, before you were born, you made an agreement with your boss that he would come into you life at this time to help you heal your issues with your father and how his criticism wounded you. This means that your boss must treat you much like your dad did in order to trigger your old wounds so that they surface again and can be dealt with now that you are an adult. There is a deep lesson that you must learn. Your boss is your teacher, and until you learn what you need to and heal, you cannot move into the next phase of you life.

This is very important to accept, because where you are going next in life will require that you learn how to validate yourself in ways your father could not. You are going to be running a major company in the years to come and will need to be a true leader with authentic soul-esteem. Since that is not done yet you will need to stay at your current job.


Now about this financial request- you are not yet mature enough to handle a million dollars, and you certainly are not going to give 10% to Charity! That amount of cash would exploit current flaws in your character that you are not aware of and hinder your spiritual development. At this point, you are not able to manage the choices that come with that much money. Your current car works just fine, by the way. I will make sure it continues to since you do need it to get to work. I will also ensure that you have enough money to fulfill all your needs-- but not your wants. let's look at more of those: Although you do not know it yet, in two years you will be moving from Milwaukee to Chicago for an incredible job, so it is not wise to buy a house you will have to sell in two years. The market will be bad then. Oh, and there is going to be a major hurricane hitting the Bahamas next fall that would have taken your life, so it is a good thing that you will not have the money to go there.

As far as Jane goes, she is there to teach you to accept others as they are- and to never pray for them to change. She is not meant to have children in this lifetime and will soon discover that she is actually not able to. She is not the right person for you to commit to in marriage, and once you accept her as she is, you will know that. You have a contract to meet someone in three years who is going to want to have a family with you, so once again it's a good thing that you do not have enough money for a wedding.

Mike, I know you cannot see all of this through your egocentric point of view, but do not worry- I have your back.

Love-
God

PS:
You should already be giving the homeless a dollar and a prayer as a way of affirming your connection to Me. They are as much a part of ME as you are

Next Food and Feelings e-Program starting Monday

Hi everyone!

Another 6 week Food Psychology e-course is starting next Monday September 12th. This program has been such a great success. I am excited to share it again. The results have been so inspiring and proof that this understanding is the missing link in body/weight/food freedom and true empowerment.  Included is a brief description as well as some comments from past participants. I love what people are saying and wanted to share. Feel free to contact me with any questions or if you'd like to sign up. Also check out my website for more info.

The 6 week E-program
I offer an empowering program of self discovery and transformation as it relates to how we see our physical selves, how we feel in our bodies, and how we manage food. Whatever the food issue; compulsive over or undereating, binge eating, anorexia, chronic dieting, body image issues, weight issues, bulimia or any combination we strive to ....

• Get to the bottom of personal diet myths
• Learn to become of aware of our eating patterns.
• Learn to decipher the language of our food issues to discover what the soul is truly hungry for.
• Learn how to begin to accept our bodies and learn to see the beauty we all radiate.
• Learn how to find and remove the blocks to our innate hunger  so we can find our natural weight.
• Learn sound nutritional concepts that rely on whole foods, healthy fats, and variety, as well as, the concept that how what we eat is as important as what we eat.

What people are saying....Here are just a few comments find more on my website...

"Aleka’'s Food and Feelings program was an amazing experience. I had been looking for a program just like it for awhile now. It is a deeply profound and thorough examination of all that is involved with weight and body image issues…I HIGHLY recommend it. Aleka also has a great understanding of the human experience and is a skillful coach. I have worked with many therapist, healers and coaches over the years and she is in my top 2!"
~Tracy Liebmann, MAT, CCTA
Personal Development Coach

"After struggling with an eating disorder for about twenty years, it remains very difficult for me to put into words exactly what I've learned from Aleka and the enormity of it.  I tried for years to "figure it out" and to "fix the problem" of my eating disorder.  I turned to psychology and looked at the connections between perfectionism, abuse, control, etc...and eating disorders.  I researched and read.  I worked with several therapists/counselors.  I participated in a couple intensive outpatient programs.  But, I continued to struggle;  I couldn't figure it out; I couldn't put the pieces of the puzzle together.  I couldn't solve my food problem.  I felt hopeless and helpless.
When I first began talking to Aleka and looking at the program she developed I recognized that there was something different about the program and about her.  I felt so excited (followed almost immediately by fear) because I thought 'This actually might work.  Recovery might actually be possible.'Therefore, the first thing Aleka helped me recover was hope.
The other crucial thing I've earned from Aleka (so far), and what I believe is the key to unraveling my eating disorder, is that I am never going to solve my food problem with my mind or intellect.  I am learning that something needs to change or shift, not only in my mind, but in my "soul," on a spiritual level, and that this is where the work needs to be done.  While this is difficult as I have been disconnected from this part of my self, my spirit, my body, etc... for so long, Aleka teaches practical exercises to help re-ignite this connection.  Aleka is an amazing guide through the recovery process.  She insightful and intuitive.  She presents unconditional acceptance, patience, compassion and the kind of understanding that can only developed by someone who's "walked in those shoes."  It has been so beneficial and important to me that Aleka is willing to share her own experience with her eating disorder and her process of recovery. "
Thank you Aleka!!~ Jeannie

"What a wonderful program, Aleka! You are one of the only people I've ever met who truly has the ability to help women move beyond the troubled relationships with food, weight, and body image. "
~M.M

The Enlightened Mom's Tele~Summit!

I just had to get the word out about an event that I am so excited about. My friend and colleague Tracy Liebmann has put together an amazing Tele~Summit that is sure to inspiring, informative, and healing on many levels. It's taking place from May 9th to the 13th, so it's coming up fast.

There will be many dynamic speakers sharing their wisdom on a range of topics including, soul to soul parenting, intuitive parenting, EFT, tapping into your intuition, conscious conception,and motherhood to the path of mastery. Furthermore, I have been graciously asked to give a talk on food, feelings, and body image freedom (more on that later in this post). Additionally, it is absolutely free! It is sure to be a great event. Just go to the website for more information and to sign up.  www.Momstelesummit.com

I'll be speaking Tuesday may 10th at 7:00 EDT about Food, Feelings, and Body image freedom. Here's a bit of a preview.

Einstein defined insanity as, “doing the same thing over again and expecting different results“. Nowhere is this description more accurate than when applied to our current  view of food, nutrition, weight, body image, and overall health. There no shortage of diets, experts, books, plans, or clinics to weigh in on this issue. What IS in short supply, however, are favorable results. With a failure rate of 95- 98% diets, quiet simply, are not effective. They are part of the problem. Collectively our current approach to nutritional health and wellness is not working, and in fact, is getting worse. On any given day it is estimated that at least 140 million Americans are on a diet. Obesity rates continue to climb as does the incidence of nutrition -linked metabolic disorders, overeating, body image dissatisfaction, and digestive ailments. If  it seems like there is a missing piece in the current health equation, there is. And it is both startling and empowering in its simplicity. WHAT one eats is only half of the weight, body image and health equation. HOW one eats is the long overlooked piece of the puzzle.


Some topics we'll cover...

• A majority of people who overeat think they have a “willpower problem” – but they really don’t. If you can’t seem to control your appetite, willpower is NOT your issue. The problem is, we don’t really eat when we eat – we forget to notice, taste, and enjoy our food. The brain interprets this missed experience of eating as “hunger” – and it drives us to eat more.

•  Approximately 98% of all people who lose weight on a weight loss diet gain it back within 1-2 years. When you question the 2% of people who keep that weight off long term, they have one fascinating thing in common – something powerful in their life story changed. This can mean a new career, letting go of an outdated relationship, embracing a new and positive one, moving to a new state, or changing their beliefs about who they are and how life works.

• 40-60% of our metabolic power at any meal – meaning our ability to digest, assimilate and calorie burn  - comes from something called the Cephalic Phase Digestive Response – which is a scientific term for taste, pleasure, aroma, satisfaction, and our visuals of a meal. So, doing the math, if we don’t receive this very intimate and subjective experience of eating, we are metabolizing at only 40-60% efficiency – a stunning statistic.

•  Pleasure is a nutritional requirement. All organisms on planet Earth are programmed at the most primitive level of nervous system physiology to “seek pleasure and avoid pain”. The problem is, when we aren’t receiving “Vitamin P” – pleasure from our food – perhaps because we’re following a punishing diet or not savoring our meals, the brain interprets this missed experience of pleasure as “hunger”, and we are driven to eat more.

• Stress depletes nutrition. Simply put, anxiety, rushing, forcing, pushing, and negative self talk all put the body in the physiologic fight-or-flight response. In this stress state, vitamins and minerals are excreted, blood flow to the digestive organs dramatically decreases, calorie burning is slowed, and hormones that signal the body to gain weight are produced. Our mental/emotional state has powerfully influenced our nutritional metabolism, regardless of the good and healthy food we may have eaten.

•  Relaxation is the optimum state of digestion and assimilation. Amazingly enough, the body is optimally designed by evolution to metabolize a meal and burn calories under “parasympathetic dominance”, also know as the physiologic “relaxation response”. So, the question is, are you a relaxed eater, or an anxious and hurried one

• Negative self talk about food or the body – can actually generate a placebo response that causes the body to create the very thing we fear. So for example, if you are constantly living in fear of gaining weight, you will produce consistent elevated levels of the stress associated hormones cortisol and insulin, which both signal the body to store weight, store fat, and to refrain from building muscle. Our fears can literally create a metabolic reality.

• There is no doubt our mind effects our physical body, but that is not the whole picture. There is a deeper layer asking for attention. The wisdom of the soul speaks through our body. Our symptoms and cravings are messages teaching us the wisdom we are here to learn. How we digest food is how we digest life.  Our relationship with food is a reflection of our relationship with ourselves. What are we “weighting” for? What are we “starving” for? What are we “full” of that is asking for release?  These are the questions of the soul. This understanding is so often the missing ingredient in transforming health, weight problems, compulsive eating, and body image distortions.

Mind Body Nutrition and Dynamic Food Psychology works from the inside out, with the knowing that our bodies are a reflection of our inner health.  It bridges the gap between mind, body, and soul in a manner that shows there is no perfect way to eat for all, but there is a perfect way to eat for YOU. Einstein also said, “No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it”. It is time for a new perspective.


I look forward to speaking more about it and love to have you join me on Tuesday, May 10th at 7:00 EST. Of course, you can always find more information about the work I do at www.alekasky.com or email me at alekasky@gmail.com

Vulnerability

 As I have been watching the news stories about the devastation in Japan I have cycled though a myriad of reactions and emotions, worry, shame, anger, terror, frustration, relief, you name it. Tragedies bestow the gift of reminding us of the nature of impermanence, the edges of our existence, and our very vulnerability. Which got me thinking.....
Embracing our vulnerability in our modern society is often not encouraged, taught, or accepted. Why is that? And what are the repercussions of this fact?

I know I share in this collective virus of  perceived invulnerability with my own disguise of "I'm fine, don't worry about me. I got things under control." We all hide behind our chosen masks (intelligence, perfection, toughness, victim, competence -take your pick) hiding what we fear we lack in ourselves. Perhaps, hoping that if we can convince the world of our blemish free armor we might convince ourselves. Yet like a simmering pot of falsehood we feel the undercurrent of anxiety and we wonder what it is. We find ourselves looking for joy in the world of ten thousand things. We find ourselves thinking the worst at the precise moment we are filled with peace. We seek to numb ourselves from this feeling of not knowing, of fear, of insecurity. Maybe we lose ourselves in work, or food, or alcohol, or drugs (prescribed or otherwise), or shopping, or being taken care of, or gambling, or being busy, or being ill, as we try to bury our vulnerability deeper under our distractions. Yet we feel lost, confused, detached, frustrated, lethargic, maybe bored...because we are...

The consequences of numbing are such that we cannot numb selectively. When we numb what we fear we also numb what we love and we forget that the extraordinary life moments are found in the vulnerability of the ordinary ones. 

Today I want to share with you a informative and inspiring link that someone wise shared with me (thanks Tracy!) about these very ideas.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_UoMXF73j0c&feature=player_

"As earthly creatures continually subject to relative disappointment, pain, and loss, we cannot avoid feeling vulnerable.  Yet as an open channel through which great love enters this world, the human heart remains invincible.  Being wholly and genuinely human means standing firmly planted in both dimensions, celebrating that we are both vulnerable and indestructible at the same time.  Here at this crossroads where yes and no, limitless love and human limitation, intersect, we discover the essential human calling:  progressively unveiling the sun in our heart, that it may embrace the whole of ourselves and the whole of creation within the sphere of its radiant warmth."

John Welwood

The cracked pot

As you may have noticed I have taken a bit of a rest from my blog the last few weeks. One reason being that as the weather warms up I find my hands wanting to be in my garden planting seeds rather than touching my key board. Another, is I am in the process of writing another e-course, a daunting and inspiring task. More to come on this soon. Suffice to say I have had less time for writing here.


So, for the time being as I am forever seeking more positive and enlightening books, teachings, and practices. I still plan to share with you what I find along the way when I feel inspired to. Some posts maybe long, some short, some my words, some borrowed. 


Right now, I am enthralled in the emerging color of this time of year, the subtleties, hues, and brightness. I am reminded that it is the contrast between the very gray of winter that allows the brilliance of spring to explode the senses.  I am reminded that after the darkest night there is a radiance sunrise and after a wicked storm the deepest calm. Both sides create the balance of wholeness. Just as it takes a spectrum of color to create a beautiful garden, so goes the tapestry of our lives. We all have had good times and not so good times, light and shadow, despair and joy. We grow older and we learn more. Ever remembering, that in the garden such is this life, it is the whole of it that is what creates beauty, not the parts. Oftentimes, it is our very imperfections and flaws that make life meaningful, that take us to places we would never go on our own, that split us open to new ways of being. It is through our cracks that the light within has the ability to shine through and where the most brilliant of flowers can grow. Today a story as we celebrate the springtime of who we are.


"The cracked pot"


A water bearer in India had two large pots, each hung on each
end of a pole which he carried across his neck.

One of the pots had a crack in it, and while the other pot was
perfect and always delivered a full portion of water at the end
of the long walk from the stream to the master's house, the
cracked pot arrived only half full.

For a full 2 years this went on daily, with the bearer
delivering only one and a half pots full of water in his master's
house.

Of course, the perfect pot was proud of its accomplishments,
perfect to the end for which it was made.

But the poor cracked pot was ashamed of its own imperfection,
and miserable that it was able to accomplish only half of what
it had been made to do.

After 2 years of what it perceived to be a bitter failure,
it spoke to the water bearer one day by the stream.

"I am ashamed of myself, and I want to apologize to you."

"Why?" asked the bearer. "What are you ashamed of?"

"I have been able, for these past two years, to deliver only
half my load because this crack in my side causes water to leak
out all the way back to your master's house. Because of my flaws,
you have to do all of this work, and you don't get full value
from your efforts," the pot said.

The water bearer felt sorry for the old cracked pot, and in his
compassion he said, "As we return to the master's house, I want
you to notice the beautiful flowers along the path."

Indeed as they went up the hill, the old cracked pot took notice
of the sun warming the beautiful wild flowers on the side of the
path and this cheered it some. But at the end of tile trail, it
still felt bad because it had leaked out half its load, and so
again it apologized to the bearer for its failure.

The bearer said to the pot, "Did you notice that there were
flowers only on YOUR side of your path, but not on the other
pot's side? That's because I have always known about your flaw,
and I took advantage of it. I planted flower seeds on your side
of the path, and every day while we walk back from the stream,
you've watered them.

For 2 years I have been able to pick these beautiful flowers
to decorate my master's table. Without you being just the way
you are, he would not have this beauty to grace his house."

(c)2002 www.club-positif.com

Faith

What if we lived our lives as though we truly believed that everything that happened to us was required to bring us to the knowing we have of this exact moment?
What if we were truly at peace with that?
What if we trusted so deeply that we didn't fear what was to come because we knew it was required?

That is faith.

Personally, I find it difficult at times to have faith. To say I struggle with it is a blatant understatement. I don't necessarily revel in the unknowing quality of the universe. You see, I have a strong thinking mind. There is a certain comfort I feel when things make "logical"sense. Perhaps, I am comforted by the facade, as I reside in my little land of logic, where everything "makes sense". Which is hilarious really, because over and over again, I find that this is not the way life seems to work. I am repeatedly reminded that my mind is like a double edge sword, great for writing a blog, e-course, taking care of the many details of life and work, but for actually "living", not so much. In fact, when I am in my thinking mind I  have a history of being one of  those people that take risks after I am assured of the outcome. I don't much like climbing mountains, and I have no desire to jump out of a perfectly good airplane. When I am in my logical mind I am cut off to all the wonder, all the synchronisities, and the miraculous nature of a indistinct reality.

Real life isn't "planned". That has been a huge lesson for me. Storms crop up, the ocean gets wild, fog rolls in. At these times, we realize no amount of "thinking" is going to help us out. We don't have the answers, and whatever is happening often makes no logical sense. I have realized that me- my thinking logical mind- is one of my biggest problems. Whether it's the many stories I convince myself are true, the suffering I feel when I am attached to an outcome or specific plan, or the fact that I think I can do it better than source power, it's just not helping.. Inspirational teacher Wayne Dyer recalls the fact that we spend nine months being created without logical agenda. We do not logically tell the ears to form, or heart to start beating. Yet, at some point after birth,  there is a thinking part that takes over, a need to Edge God Out (EGO), as we say "we'll take it from here".

Life has both the capacity to bring us to our knees, and lift us to soar. Faith is the knowing that this is so.

“Faith dares the soul to go farther than it can see” ~William Clark

For a minute,  let us assume the position of distance, of perspective. See the world through the eyes of a bird soaring over the earth. From this lofty position we see the interconnectedness. We see the totality of the journey; its beginning and end. Perhaps, we see the jungle we must navigate, leading us to the desert, that leads us to a treacherous river crossing. Perhaps, we see the mountains in the distance we must climb. We see the beginning, we see the end, and the terrain between. From this perspective, we have a knowing that the mountains, the desert, and the jungle are all necessary steps on our journey. The obstacles are part of a bigger picture. We see how the skills we developed in the jungle prepared us for the desert, and the desert our preparation for the mountain. The journey makes total sense when we observe it in its entirety. Yet, when we lose our birds eye view, when we sink back into our earthly bound bodies, and find ourselves deep in that jungle, we often feel blinded by the trees, the vines, the fetid air itself. We cannot even locate the trail ahead. We even forget there is one. Perhaps, we tell ourselves a story about how very stifling hot and humid the jungle is. How scary the wild animals are, how very lost, confused, and alone we feel. Our logical minds tell us how we don't deserve a jungle again, and how it makes no sense. It's not fair. Our thinking minds tell us the jungle is NOT where we should be right now. Dammit!

And yet THAT is exactly where we are. We so easily forget the bigger picture.

But, as always, we have choices.

Maybe we listen to our ego selves. Maybe we try to think our way out of the jungle. Maybe we resist what is, we fight, and fight the vines. We tell ourselves the story of how horrible the jungle is. We say we “should be doing other things“, and “we are better than this stinking  place.” We think about how we got there, who's at fault for leading us there, what we are going to do when we get out. We think about how much better life is outside of the jungle, how when we are out, then we'll be happy. We keep our story of suffering alive, resisting what is, maybe long after we get out.

or

Maybe we don’t resist. Maybe we don't do anything at all but listen. We tap into that inner place beyond our thinking mind, the place that effortlessly created us in those nine months without our help, that place within that seeps truth, like a hidden spring. We get still and we listen and when we feel directed we take action. Maybe we just put one foot in front of the other and cut the vines, systematically clearing our path ahead, with a sense of determination and awareness. Maybe we even notice the beauty of the jungle at times. The birds, the flowers, awake to the subtleties of life. We allow rather than solve. Maybe we even get still enough to connect to a place within that knows what we need to do, so we walk, or we don't, paying attention to the lessons along the way. We know there is a reason we are in the jungle as we are open to what that is.

This is faith.

“When you have come to the edge Of all light that you know And are about to drop off into the darkness Of the unknown, Faith is knowing One of two things will happen: There will be something solid to stand on or You will be taught to fly”

~ Patrick Overton 

Faith is the ability to remember the bird’s eye view. That there is a gift in our lessons. That they are steps along the journey. Faith is the trust that we have in our inner compass to allow the path to unfurl before us without fear, without anticipation, without judgment, without conviction. All we need do is the next right thing, and then the next, and then the next.  There is no doubt we have peaks and valley's in our life terrain, and when we are in a valley it certainly doesn't feel like a peak. At our lowest, faith might be fleeting, like grasping at starlight in a midnight sky. It maybe as ambiguous to us as the traces of smoke left by an exhausted candle. Yet, always it is there, ready to lead us onward. Faith is knowing that the journey unfolds just as it should when we get out of our own way.

When I think back to those times when I was at my very lowest, when I thought I may not be able to take another step, what emerges is a  realization that what happened was indeed meaningful. There emanated a profound lesson that I needed to learn. The trials I walked through opened me up to a new understanding and compassion. It showed me I had the strength to heal, and to help others. I look back, and I see that life gave me exactly the circumstances I needed to be the person I am now. And it continues to, everyday bringing me to a new way of being. Your journey has the same gifts. There are absolutely no accidents.

Having faith doesn’t mean trusting everyone to do the "right" thing all of the time. Faith doesn't mean we don’t have fear creep into our lives. It doesn't mean we don't lose it, get angry, sad, frustrated, or lonely. Developing faith is a practice. For me, it is a constant dance of control verses allowing, of intellect verses intuition, of literal verses figurative. It means we repeatedly remind ourselves to recognize and honor the odyssey of ourselves and others. We remind ourselves that faith is not logical. We, time and time again, remind ourselves that we may not know the why behind every thing, all the time, yet all is as it should be. Faith is when we know at some point (even if that time isn’t now), that we can accept situations as both lessons and opportunities for growth. Faith is trust.

What if you knew without a doubt…

"If you knew who walked beside you at all times, on the path that you have chosen, you could never experience fear or doubt again."

— Wayne W. Dyer

Faith asks us to believe it as if this were true because it is

Today a story to reflect on as we ponder faith.
One that has given me faith even in my darkest times.
 It reminds me that even in my darkest moment there is always a light.


One day a small opening appeared on a cocoon, and a man sat and watched for the butterfly for several hours as it struggled to force its body through that little hole. Then it seemed to stop making any progress. It appeared as if it had gotten as far as it could and it could go no further.


So the man decided to help the butterfly. He took a pair of scissors and snipped off the remaining bit of the cocoon. The butterfly then emerged easily. But it had a swollen body and small, shriveled wings. The man continued to watch the butterfly because he expected that, at any moment, the wings would enlarge and expand to be able to support the body, which would contract in time. Neither happened!


In fact, the butterfly spent the rest of its life crawling around with a swollen body and shriveled wings. It never was able to fly.


What the man, in his kindness and haste, did not understand was that the restricting cocoon and the struggle required for the butterfly to get through the tiny opening was God's way of forcing fluid from the body of the butterfly into its wings so that it would be ready for flight once it achieved its freedom from the cocoon.


Sometimes struggles are exactly what we need in our life. If God allowed us to go through our life without any obstacles, it would cripple us. We would not be as strong as we could have been. We could never fly.

The Myth of Comfort Food

We are half way through the first food and feelings e-course and it is going so well. I wanted to include the following excerpt from the program, because it is a subject people may not think about that often, the myth of comfort foods. I use food here but in reality one could substitute any other thing outside ourselves we long for, use, buy, in an attempt to make us happy. There is another  e- program starting February 14th. I am also in the works of putting together a physical weekly group. Please feel free to contact me for more info on either.

We have to be very careful with the term "comfort food". Much like we have to be careful with the idea of a comfort drink, a comfort gambling session, or a comfort shopping trip. We get into dangerous territory anytime we start to look outside ourselves for comfort, for love, for feelings of peace.  The term implies it would be possible for food to give us comfort. That food has the ability to give us love. That it could brings us peace or happiness.The truth is we cannot find happiness in another person,  another job, another location, and certainly not in food.  If we think something “out there”  will fill us, we will always come up empty. And if it’s food we are using we will be continuously hungry,  because no amount of food is going to fill the emptiness we feel. We may temporarily suspend the emptiness for a moment but it will return. There is no possible way to fill an emotional need with food, or anything else in the world of form for that matter.

So, in my opinion, the term "comfort food" is a total misnomer. In fact, I would suggest that most times those "comfort foods" are in fact the opposite of "comfort". They perhaps should be called  “discomfort” foods, because they are anything but loving to our bodies or our soul. Those foods that we are eating to “comfort” ourselves, do not love us back. They distract us from feelings we are being called to attend to. They also typically,  fill us with chemicals, unhealthy fats, artificial ingredients, and other non-loving things and usually in large quantities. How does your body feel when you eat them? Does it feel loved? More important question, do you feel lasting comfort, peace, and contentment? Nope. Because nothing actually happened to those feelings that caused you do eat in the first place.Those feelings that wanted comfort do not disappear with a few bowls of macaroni and cheese.

We might even utter the phrase “I had a tough day (or a good day) so I deserve that …(fill in food here)”. Hmmm...ponder that statement for a minute. What we really deserve is food that reflects and respects our inner divinity, and food that supports our emerging authentic selves. What we deserve is to nourish ourselves, fully. That is real comfort food. Food that honors us on our path. We deserve food that supports us as we negotiate our inner landscape, not looking outside for fixes in the form of fast food, cake, skittles, or ice cream.

Now, that is not to say we can't enjoy our food, have fun with our food, and eat "unhealthy foods" from time to time, just that we cannot depend on food to make us feel better. You see, everything we do in life is a reflection of what we believe about ourselves. Our relationship with food is no exception.When we feel joy, when we are in love with ourselves, our food choices reflect this. When we are honoring ourselves we honor our intuition, and we choose foods that honor us. If we find ourselves eating in a way that is not honoring ourselves- eating for "comfort", eating until we are overfull, not eating when we are hungry, depriving ourselves, or simply choosing lifeless foods, we need to take a look at our relationship with ourselves. Our intention behind all our choices matter. Last week we spoke about love and fear and how every choice we make comes from one of these two places. Even what we decide to put in our bodies. What we choose to eat comes from either an intent of love or fear. But contrary to popular belief, comfort food (In the typical way we think about it) is not love. Some of the qualities of love we spoke about last week boil down to truth, non harming, and compassion. When we believe food can soothe us in these ways, or make our hurts go away, we are believing a myth. This is not loving. This is fear, which is far from comfort.

The truth is, our bodies yearn to be in alignment with our greatest selves. Our cells know what they need to function optimally. Have you noticed just how much our bodies when left alone do so much for themselves? We don’t need to tell our bodies how to breathe, or how to digest food, or how to see or hear. We just need to get out of the way. Yet, we so often override the system, ignoring the messages, by not trusting our innate hunger guidance system. We have hit the override button and decided we could not be trusted. We make loving choices when we honor our true selves.



How would your food (or anything else) choices change if you only ate with the intention of love?

“The choice to eat wisely is not important simply because it leads to an arguably more attractive you; it isn’t important because it offers the possibility of a smaller dress size; it isn’t even important simply because it’s healthier. It’s important because it’s an act of love. It’s a way that you feed who you want to be- the healthier you, the more beautiful you, the more comfortable you, the happier you. And what you feed you call forth. You are not treating yourself when you eat excessively; in fact you are withholding sustenance from yourself when you overeat, for in doing so you are withholding love. “ ~Marianne Williamson

Love and Fear

What is Love and what is Fear?
Are they even possible to define with words?

“Love is not about concepts; love is about action. Love in action produces happiness. Fear in action can only produce suffering” Don Miguel Ruiz

Love is a difficult thing to describe because it is like describing God or Truth. How do you find the words? Do they even exist? Some words reflect the qualities of love. Words like comfort, peace, safety, and  joy. Those words get close to describing what love might be like. But Love is bigger than our language. It is a knowing, an experience. Love allows us to be just who we are without approval, scorn, or fear. Love is like coming home.

Fear on the other hand is the opposite of  love. It is the ever present voice in our minds that reminds us of limitation and resentment. It is in our beliefs that try to convince us we are powerless, how much our past is real, and how much evidence there is of our own frailty. Fear is the precursor for every negative emotion we have.

I can feel the difference in my body when I am aware. I know when I am in alignment with fear or love. When I am believing my own story, trying to control things, when I am trying to be “right”, I feel anxious, frustrated, angry and scared. I am in fear. When I am in a place of allowing and being curious as to what unfolds, when I am present and react with intuition, strength, and surety, I am in love. When I am in fear I feel like I need to "do something" to relax, to distract me, or to “fill” me. When I am in love there is a knowing that I "need" nothing other than what I have.


So, there is love and there is fear. That's it. And what we are doing in our life, every choice, every action, and every thought we have, arises from one of those two places. Love or Fear.
Where are you spending most of your time?

"Love is the ability and the willingness to allow those that you care for to be what they choose for themselves without any insistence that they satisfy you" ~ Wayne Dyer

Here are some differences...at least in my opinion...

• Love is unconditional. Love just loves and is not dependent on outside conditions. It knows it is empowered by an endless supply of divine energy so has no need for outside approval. Love is freedom so it doesn’t need rules. Love asserts itself and doesn’t put up with disrespect because love knows what it deserves. Fear puts conditions on love. For example, “If you do what I want or think is acceptable then I’ll love you back.” Fear decides who fits into its story and who doesn’t using its own criteria. It uses rules as ways to control and defend its position in the hope it will feel “safe” from a (falsely believed) unsafe world.

• Love does not arise from feeling obligated. When we are aligned with love we “want” to freely give. Fear is about doing what we feel we have to with a sense of obligation. Then, typically, we resent having to do what we don’t want so we rebel, and in the process we suffer.

• Love doesn’t intend to cause pain. It doesn’t want to hurt. Its intent is truth. That doesn't mean that the truth doesn't hurt sometimes, but to love is to be honest. The intention of fear is to cause suffering.

• Love doesn’t have expectations because love relies on itself to reflect peace. It comes from within and doesn’t need outside confirmation. Love doesn’t take things personally. Fear places it’s expectations on everything. It is “if …then” thinking. As in “if he tells me I’m beautiful , good enough, amazing" then I’ll feel loved. Or, “If this situations turns out the way I want, then I’ll be happy.” Of course, this example of impermanence is an example of the dualistic nature of fear. What happens when he doesn’t  affirm your worthiness or if the situation doesn’t turn out the way you expect? Yep. Suffering.

• Love has compassion but doesn’t feel sorry for anyone. It knows its own resiliency and strength and is confident in its choices. Love respects itself and the opinions of others. Fear on the other hand, feels sorry for itself and others thereby asserting it’s own “special-ness’ and “better than attitude”. It has the need to control others, because it doesn’t trust others or themselves to make the “right” choices. Fear tells other people what to do because fear always believes it is “right”.

• Love is accountable for its actions. Fear avoids responsibility, and is always looking to blame, excuse, or explain away its accountability.

• Love is kind and compassionate. Fear is not. Fear is selfish. It puts its own needs before others. How can we be kind when we are suffering?

•   Love is who we are when we undo all our resentments. It is our truest from, our deep soul expression, and our birthright. It is our radiant core brilliant like the sun. It is always there. Fear is what we learn. It is in our stories, histories, excuses, and justifications of our ego selves.

I think the whole point of a journey of self discovery, a mystical path of self realization, a spiritual quest of the truest order, is a journey of unlearning. Of undoing. Of clearing away the clouds of fear covering our brilliant sun selves. When we can stop wanting things to be different than they are. When we can allow our lessons, whatever they are, to remind us that we are not on a journey of finding a new self, but on an excavation of finding what has never been lost within. This is the way to love.


What about when love doesn’t look like love?

See, for me I thought love looked like always being nice, encouraging, sweet, and kind. I thought love meant I never yelled (even when I was screaming inside), never told someone “no”, never rejected anyone. That I should always be polite. That I shouldn’t get angry. That I should stay in control. That I should always speak intelligently. That I was to look a certain way to be accepted. We are programmed to fit into what ever mold we are give ourselves.

Then I learned a word called “enabling”. Basically, enabling means doing for someone else what they should be doing for themselves. For example, if you live with an addict and you allow them to continue their behavior you are enabling. If that person does that for you, they are enabling you. If you allow another to be right because it is "easier" you are enabling their behavior.  If you say “yes” when you really mean “no”. That is enabling.

Main point here- Enabling is not love. It is not loving.

It’s true. Real love is honest. It is connected to something bigger than our logical minds. Our intent is what is most important here. Is our intent love or fear. How might this look?

"When you abuse yourself, in a sense you abuse the world. If you learn to love yourself, you become an expert in self-preservation and your own healing. You begin to bloom and the world blooms around you."
- Unknown

Love often means setting boundaries. Unless we realize that we have the power to say no we will never be able to say yes anything. In our relationships, in our work, in our life experiences. We don’t set boundaries from a  fear place where we must “defend ourselves”, but from loving ourselves enough to take a stand. When we say no to something from a place of loving intent we do what is best for us. We are loving ourselves enough to honor our authentic knowing.  Likewise when we say “no” to another we are loving them enough not be enable them. We are loving them enough to say “I am not going to help you hurt yourself because I know you are worth more than that”. So often times real “love” may look tough from the outside. It may even look like rejection. But it is not that at all. Many times the most loving thing you can do is say “no”.

With love we say no because we are worth it and so are they.

 
We all have a price which is measured in self love. When we are connected to that divine love within ourselves we have a high price, a high value, and a low tolerance for abuse. We no longer accept abuse from ourselves or others. A lower value, a weaker connected with our divine self,  and we have a lesser price.
We say no because we have both the right and the power to choose what we want in our lives and the right to change our mind. We also trust that we know what is best for us. Life is not an obligation but an opportunity.

Where is your intent with yourselves and others? If you are anything like most of us you may fear saying no to another for fear of them feeling rejected, or of them rejecting you, or of looking impolite, or because you just don’t trust your own value. It could be a thousand reasons. What is true is this…If we have rejected our truth we are willing to accept anything.
We each have the choice in every moment to create a life based on love or fear, truth or everything else.
What do you choose?

Love is reckless, not reason;

reason seeks a profit.

Love comes on strong,

consuming herself, unabashed.

Yet, in the midst of suffering,

Love proceeds like a millstone,

hard surfaced and straightforward.

Having died of self-interest,

she risks everything and asks for nothing.

Love gambles away every gift God bestows.

Without cause God gave us Being.

Without cause, give it back again.

~Rumi

The 13th Sign Debate & First Look at Published Article

You know after the 13th sign debate last week I had to comment. So many people have contacted me and asked what the deal was, I thought I'd officially comment here. Here are my major points

1. Astronomers are not astrologers so they shouldn't comment on astrology unless they have studied it.
2. There is no such thing as bad press...right? maybe it'll get some more people interested in astrology (thanks for that one Tom)
3. Western astrology has Never followed the constellations.
4. The constellation of Ophiuchus (aka "The 13th Sign) only dips partially into the ecliptic, while the twelve signs Western Astrologers count as part of the zodiac are fully intersected by the ecliptic. If we were to count all the constellations that just touch the ecliptic with their tippy toe, we’d have not only 13 signs, but perhaps three or four more. But that is not the case. (Thanks Dena)
5. Astrologers have always known about both Ophiuchus as well as the precession of the equinoxes (the "wobble" of the earth that has caused this debate). This is a debate that has been around for awhile now. 
6. Astrology seems to work because of its consistency. As long as astrologers are consistent within their chosen approach it works.

Ok, enough on the 13th sign. If this has peaked your interest in astrology, great. Lmk and we'll chat.

And while we are on the subject of astrology...A local magazine has decided to publish an article I turned in about astrology. Here's a sneak peak.. Look for it in Natural Awakenings this February.

Say  the word “astrology” and most people think of sun sign descriptions in a newspaper horoscope. For others, the word astrology might conjure up  images of smoky back rooms and velvet curtains where a mysterious woman crones dire predictions. Historically speaking there is relevance to some of these presuppositions-  mostly because they are true. There has been a slow transformation taking place over the last few decades in the field of astrology that reflects a new paradigm, however. One that seems to shadow an evolution in our collective consciousness and is bringing astrology from the back rooms of hushed premonitions to the forefront of healing and health. 

This new branch of astrology emerged separately but synchronistically in the l970’s and 80’s.  Gifted astrologers like Stephen Arroyo, Alan Oken, Martin Shulman, David Railley, A.T. Mann and Ray Merriman led the charge to challenge traditional astrological paradigms. Jeffrey Green and Steven Forrest took these ideas and ran with them creating a whole new branch of astrology called Evolutionary Astrology.  Simultaneously, another divergence was entering the scene which reflected a more psychological slant led by noted astrologers Liz Greene and Howard Sasportas and heavily based on the work of Carl Jung.  Like tributaries that connect back to a rushing river, all these new astrological models flow together to form a beautiful and sacred science. Called sacred astrology, it blends astrological principles, with psychology, evolutionary principles, and intuition.

Astrology is a learned, proven, and trusted science. Often taking years of study and practice. A good sacred astrologer has fundamental astrological  knowledge as well as a deep respect and understanding of human nature. Many astrologers of this type will also be educated in psychology, social work, and related disciplines. Most are highly intuitive, courageous teachers, and gifted counselors.

The basic science of astrology  is based on birth time, date, and location. From this data a chart called a natal or birth chart is created.  It is a snapshot of the sky at that precise moment of birth. In a very real sense the birth chart is a divinely inspired personal road map. Like a map, the astrologer reads the placements of planets, asteroids, and angles to ascertain the karmic terrain of the path ahead and behind, the tools available along the way, and pitfalls that are possible.

The sacred astrologer takes the whole person into account starting with the knowing that each person comes into this life with a soul packed with a personality, a purpose, and the gift of choice. Heavily seeped in these understandings the sacred astrologer is able to give insight into a person’s life from a soul perspective.  They are able to tackle the big questions.  Fears, life patterns, relationships, and habits can be truly understood and then transformed. Life’s purpose and potential, past lives, and dreams can be unearthed and validated. It is a tool for self reflection, honesty, and accountability. In essence, it is a tool for making sense of the complex inner world where soul meets body. It is through this greater understanding of self where change and ultimately healing can happen.

Astrology is certainly not alone in its ability to bring deep self realization of course. Find a good therapist. Scale a mountain. Learn a skill. Have children. Life has a way of bringing the lessons right to our doorstep anyway. What astrology has on its side is acceleration. The lessons that may take a person a decade to unravel and decipher on their own, a good astrologer can quickly and quite profoundly reveal in an hour.
Herein lies its gift.

Feelings......to believe or not to believe...

Don’t trust your feelings as fact because they are filtered through your history.

Wait...what was that? Are you saying my feelings aren't real.
No, your feelings are very real, meaning you are feeling them. But are they always accurate? Not usually.
Confusing? Let me explain.

First of all what are feelings? In this world where everything is energy, feelings are just that, emotions-energy in motion. If you are paying attention (and I hope that you are) you can feel your feelings in your body. Ever feel "butterfly's in your stomach" before a performance or get a stomach ache if you are nervous? Ever hear something tragic and feel like you can't breathe? Those are all examples of feelings as energy, in our body.

Where do they come from? This is important. Our beliefs (blog about that here), give rise to our thoughts, which give rise to our feelings. It is impossible to have a feeling without a thought. Really. For a minute think about that because it's fascinating. Every feeling is a reflection of a thought and every thought a reflection of a belief we have.

Now we know about thoughts and beliefs. Every thought we have is had is reference to the past. Therefore so are our feelings. In a very real way every feeling we have isn't real to the present moment but in reaction to our habitual thoughts. Confusing?

Let's take an obvious example. Let's say as a child you were chased by a dog and thus, formed the belief that dogs are dangerous creatures. Maybe it was a big enough deal that it left strong emotional residue (fear) in your body, and became part of your identity story. So now, you walk around with belief that dogs can't be trusted (of course with that core belief that is exactly what you'll manifest again and again, right?). Anyway, one day you are talking a leisurely stroll down a sidewalk see a dog. Here come the thoughts, "oh no, there's a dog" and it "it looks just like the one that attacked me those years ago". Here come the feelings. Maybe you start to have a hard time catching your breathe. You notice your pulse start to race. You start to sweat. You cross to the other side of the street to avoid what you perceive as a threat. See what I mean? Our feelings are created in response to a belief we believe is true. We have the thought about that belief and then we have the feeling.

So quite literally, when it comes to feelings, we are running our present through our past. It’s like living in a dream state. We are stuck in time, reacting to our present as if it has already happened. Is it any wonder why we keep creating and feeling the same experiences and feelings we say we don't want?

Another important note, is that most of those beliefs we have are not even ours to begin with.  It's interesting to ponder the fact that we are following instructions given to us years ago by people we wouldn't listen to today.

So our feelings are energetic shadows of our past and must be seen as thus. We must realize that they are emerging with baggage attached and we have to question their validity as it pertains to the present moment.

A bit about what I like to call karmic PTSD
Do you remember the file folder effect I spoke of here? Feelings arise the same way. All those file folders in our minds store and catalog all the past stories, beliefs, thoughts and associated feelings. Like a giant web of electrical impulses all weaved together. When a file is tripped, say when the person in the example above sees a dog, the whole file is triggered. It's a bit like those fire cracker chains you might set off at News Years celebration. Bang, bang, bang, each one lighting the next. You can’t just trigger one part of the file without firing off the whole file. So, the emotion ( energy in motion) that is released is not just about the present situation, but all those past situations stored in the file as well. In our dog situation, there is fear (obviously), perhaps some shame, some frustration, some sadness...any number of emotions attached to the beliefs in the mind file labeled "dog". When the dog file is triggered out flood the whole file of emotions that seem to be about the present situation. But are they? This is what I like to call karmic ptsd.
Someone suffering from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder will overact to a stimulus because they have triggered a powerful web of emotions hidden deep in their mind file folder. When the war veteran hears a car backfire as he is walking down the street he may find himself falling to the ground taking cover from a perceived threat. His mind file of emotion might be so intense that reality may shift to the point he believes he is back at war. What is he reacting to? The file folder marked “sound like a gunshot" is triggered in his mind. What do you think someone that has spent time in combat has in that file? I would imagine it is full of stories of war, terror, and anguish. He reacts accordingly. Instantly. Believing he‘s being shot at. Our bodies stress response is triggered if we believe it is so, whether it is so or not, because our bodies don’t know the difference between now and then, real or not real. We all have karmic PTSD to some extent with our feelings. Every single one of us


“The fact that you are sad doesn’t mean that something is wrong. It simply means you‘re sad“- Marianne Williamson

What do we often do with our feelings?
I don't know about you, but the first thing I do is usually believe them. Then I try to "deal" with them. Which is comical really. We may also try to minimize them, figure them out, or deny them. We might attempt to stuff them, right along with food or drink them down with another beer. We may blame them on whomever and whatever we can. We often try to get rid of our unpleasant feelings as soon as possible. Instead of welcoming them, learning from them, and allowing them to pass we tend to fear them.

“Rather than understand the original cause—a thought—we try to change the stressful feelings by looking outside ourselves.” ~ Byron Katie

Are feelings at all helpful?
Yes!!!
Our feelings can be exceptional barometers of the conditions of our mind. Our emotions have wisdom. They let us know what needs attention. For if we are in pain we are in error. Sometimes fear is helpful. Fear can often tell us something to pay attention to, something to avoid, or be smarter about. Feelings can give us great information about the trajectory of our present reality. They can give us insight into what mind energy from the past we are resonating now. They are a tool to let us know when we have some inquiry to do. By being curious about our feelings we can begin to see what is unseen. We can look at those emotions and follow them back to their birthplace, question them, and then choose to let them go because they are based on beliefs that are not true.



So what do we do with feelings?
We can feel them, just not believe them.

You will notice if you stay in the moment our feelings feel very different. In fact, you may find that your feelings lose purchase like a cat on a tin roof. Without the past to create reference our feelings become observations of the present moment where we can step back and access their validity and accuracy, rather than part of our justification of our stories. Our creative energy is no longer trapped in the past like a bad rerun replaying the same story. We are free to use our creative energy to move forward in new ways. Our reality begins to look very different.

Feelings are like waves in the ocean. If we just let them wash over us they pass and move on. We can allow the energy to be released like a fever burning old energetic residue. In fact, emotional tears are very different than other types of tears. Tears that are more of the reflex variety (like when you peel an onion) are 98% water, while emotional tears have many other chemicals. Emotional tears have prolactin, a variety of stress hormones. and endorphins. There is something to be said for having a good cry. It is when we attempt to block our feelings, control them, deny them, or fight them, we just get tired, frustrated, and maybe even ill. (more on that next week). Just as there is no stopping the ocean there is no stopping feelings. We must allow them to wash over us and let them pass. We just don't have to believe them.

“My research has shown me that when emotions are expressed--which is to say that the biochemicals that are the substrate of emotion are flowing freely--all systems are united and made whole. When emotions are repressed, denied, not allowed to be whatever they may be, our network pathways get blocked, stopping the flow of the vital feel-good, unifying chemicals that run both our biology and our behavior.” ~ Dr. Candace B. Pert Quotes


Our feelings are like the weather. They reflect the present atmospheric conditions of our reality. They tell us what we need to take a look at. If there is a feeling of pain there is mind energy that needs to be examined. Like the weather we can’t stop our feelings. We can try to ignore them but that will just delay their emergence. Allow them. Like a storm they will pass. Like a storm, after the energy is released we are left cleansed, new, refreshed, with a rainbow of new beginnings showing the path ahead.

“This being human is a guest house Every morning a new arrival. A joy, a depression, a meanness, some momentary awareness comes as an unexpected visitor. Welcome and entertain them all! Even if they are a crowd of sorrows, who violently sweep your house empty of its furniture, still treat each guest honorably. He may be clearing you out for some new delight. The dark thought, the shame, the malice, meet them at the door laughing, and invite them in. Be grateful for whoever comes, because each has been sent as a guide from beyond“.-Rumi

Saturday Fitness event and Guest

My dear friend Lyn Tally is putting together and amazing, educational, and fun filled day celebrating health and wellness. Some of you may already know her as the amazing yoga instructor that she is. She is truly gifted as a true teacher, meaning she exudes not only honesty and humility but a deep compassion, a willing spirit, and exquisitely joyful energy. She is in a word an inspiration. This is Lyn's site http://www.gointeractivewellness.com/parkcircleyoga/. She does a class on Wednesdays and also offers private yoga instruction. Take a look and then take a class!

Come out this Saturday to park circle where Lyn and some other amazing Charleston fitness instructors will be getting you all ready for the New Year. Besides the awesome fitness demonstrations there will be some other local vendors. I'll be there ready to chat about breaking free from weight issues once and for all and answering questions about my upcoming e-course starting Monday. So come say hello.

here's the info....
Bust into the New Year with a Round Robin Workout at Mixson in Park Circle. A mix of Tae Bo, Boot Camp, Yoga plus more, get a great workout to start 2011 off right. Join us FREE for the 3 hour event beginning at 11:00 until 2:00p.m Saturday January 8th. Local vendors include Go Interactive Wellness, gRAWnola, The Brunch Truck, Fly Dog Fitness, Park Circle Tae Bo and yOga in the Circle. Workout starts at 11:30 a.m.

and here's the link to the location http://www.mixson.com/location_guide/

See ya there!

25% off e-course!

Hi blog friends!

Thank you for your supportive response to the six week Food and feelings e-course starting monday. I have had a slew of interest in the last few days especially. I also know that money is tight right now and to help out I have decided to offer 25% off all levels of participation. You also have the option of a payment plan. My intention is to make committing to this program as easy as possible. I really just want to get this amazing program out to the people who are ready to make real changes in their lives.
So, my blog friends if you are on the fence, perhaps wondering what to do, asking yourself if you want to tackle this issue once and for all, perhaps this gives you the micro push you need to step forward.
As always get in touch with me with any questions, concerns, or if you need more information.
(843)870-7455, alekasky@gmail.com

Here are the discounted prices...

There are 3 choices of participation
Choice 1- Full Program-$180 ( discount is $135)
-Includes all program benefits plus 4 private hour long sessions with Aleka for
deeper reflection and examination of issues that arise

Choice 2-Half program-$130 ( discount is $97.50)
-Includes all program benefits plus 2 hour long private session with Aleka.

Choice 3-Online program excluding private sessions $85.00 ( discount $63.75)