“When you realize that every stressful moment you experience is a gift that points you to your own freedom, life becomes very kind.”
~ Byron Katie
Who are you without you memes? Exactly who you are….
Bringing your memes into the light
- Challenge your memes
But, you may ask, what about the things that are true? What if you have evidence? For example, “I've always been overweight.“ That‘s possibly true (although I doubt when you were born you were overweight but we'll go with it). The scale says it and I know it. Sometimes we need to go a little deeper. Try “I’m overweight and that means___?“ Maybe you tell yourself it means you are “lazy, a failure, unattractive, or never get things right,” Now question the validity of those things. Question the story you tell yourself. At the core our memes that break down our vital energy are always false. No exceptions. When we question them and realize we are choosing to believe a lie we can find freedom in letting go of our stories.
- What is the wisdom behind what you are doing but want to change?
And I guarantee there is a good reason you are doing it. Say you have insomnia and want to let it go. What is the history of it. Did it start when you were a child? Maybe you came from a chaotic home where nighttime meant fighting and your fear was falling asleep meant that something terrible would happen and you wouldn‘t be awake to take car of it. You learned to be like a sentry, always on guard. And it may have been necessary for a means of survival. The pattern of energy is set in motion with the belief in that story. Now, no longer a child, you still find yourself struggling to sleep. What needs to be examined is the fear we are holding in our bodies about it. If you want to change the fact that you can’t sleep find the energetic wisdom behind it and then question if you need it anymore. Realize you can create a healing field where you can let that part of you go. You no longer need to be a sentry, it’s not true for you anymore (if it ever was).
So the first step to dismantling our stories and effecting change in our lives is to begin to question our deeply held beliefs (memes) that create our very stories. We need to start noticing how our thoughts give rise to our lives and realizing that they are actually not true. But know this. Our thoughts are actually not the problem. In fact, thoughts are very much like the wind or the ocean as they come and go and there really is no stopping them (give it a try if you don’t believe me). What is the problem is we believe our thoughts as if they were true, then we find evidence that makes them stronger, and they become the stories we define ourselves by. Then they become our reality. If you want change in your life you need to stop believing your own story.
“We must be willing to let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the life that is waiting for us.”
- Joseph Campbell